Dating Desperation
You’ve plastered your best smile on your face and you think you’ve mastered the art of flirting. So why is it that you have one heck of a hard time attracting a date? And once you do have a date, there’s no second date! In a word, desperation.
Chances are that when you’re in love you wear your heart on your sleeve. Similarly, when you want a date so badly you can taste it, that desperation is evident in your behavior. Unfortunately, it makes potential daters run for the hills. Keep reading for tips to change your luck.
As with most things in life, when you try too hard to succeed at something, you end up failing. Just like you can’t force that white ball onto the green, you can’t force someone to fall for you; it usually just happens on its own. When you appear desperate for a date the only thing potential dates will feel is pressure, not desire.
Those little white lies you tell in the hopes of appearing more attractive to someone are going to end up biting you in the butt sooner or later, so you might as well stop telling them. Potential daters will be able to tell, deep down, that you’re lying and along with appearing desperate, you’ll come across as insincere.
Agreeing with everything. When you’re having a conversation with a potential date, do you find yourself agreeing with everything they say, even if you don’t? Though this isn’t outright lying, you’re not being true to yourself. You cannot expect someone to get to know the real you if you don’t have any opinions of your own. Agreeing for the sake of agreeing is for wimps.
Nobody wants to date a doormat; except maybe a control freak, and you don’t want anything to do with someone like that! So why do you allow your dates to treat you shabbily? There’s no reason to tolerate tardiness, or worse being stood up. Showing potential daters that you have respect for yourself is the first step in gaining respect from others.
You sleep with someone even though you don’t really want to. Have sex with whomever you want, provided you feel ready to do so. By doing otherwise you’re setting yourself up as someone who’ll go to any lengths to please someone; and that’s desperation personified.
True dating desperation means dating anyone you can, regardless of whether or not you actually like them. If that sounds like you, you need some dating downtime. And you should use that time to get back in touch with yourself; to like yourself and enjoy your own company. If you like yourself, chances are that others will too!
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